“If you don’t like the direction that you are going in,
change it” I wish I had come up with that clever statement. Deborah “Soft Touch”
Garcia did. Simple really, just do something different from that which is not
working for you.
Casino games create a stimulus for excitement and pleasure.
I play for the excitement and I take pleasure from those times that I am able to
survive the casino edge with a win. No two games are ever the same. If you play
enough games, though, you will begin to recognize similarities.
A few weeks ago after finishing 6th in a Texas
Hold’em tournament, I saddled up in a $4/$8 low limit game. Everyone in the game
was well acquainted except for me. That was my first clue that should have
alerted me to be on my toes and I ignored it.
I had very few starting hands in the two hours of play.
When I did enter a hand, I was astonished that when I raised the bet pre-flop
that I had so many callers. At the Cities of Gold Casino, the poker game goes by
the name “No Fold’em Hold’em”, which explains all the callers staying in the
game. I soon found myself hearing a familiar voice. The voice of experience
whispered in my ear, “not here, not now and not tonight”.
Had I been playing blackjack or craps, the message would
have been crystal clear and easy for me to accept and act accordingly. However,
as I am in the early stages of becoming a skilled poker player, I could not
bring myself to admit to the perception that I was sitting in a lousy card game.
Instead, I hit the override key and countered with “I came to play and play I
will”. I refused to take in the information and change my course.
The element of “energy” that I teach and preach about
provides even more of an edge when playing poker. Without the house edge as the
silent foe, perceiving the energy of a poker game is much easier when it is
player against player.
During this session, I recognized the situation of it not
being my night and not my game. I consoled myself with, “Hell, I am here. It’s
the only table open. What else do I have to do? I am going to play!” I
reconciled reality with my desire to play no matter the out come. Eventually, I
did not have enough chips in front of me to play, even if I drew a winning
hand.
I lost and I should have quit much earlier, when I first
became aware that I was playing a losing game. I’ve had that well-known
perception of losing plenty of times before, at the blackjack and craps table.
There was no denying it. There was only ignoring it.
Why is it that change does not come easy? Why do we have a
tendency to hold fast to the familiar with a fantasy of better cards or dice to
come? We repeat the same pattern instead of trusting our perceptions.
Comfortable, relaxed, successful people trust their perceptions and then act
upon what they have perceived. What is the obstacle that keeps us stuck in a
negative game? Is it fear? Is it ego? Is it stubbornness? Or, is it simply not
knowing, what to do?
My ol’ teacher, Stuart Wilde, use to say, “If you don’t
know what to do, then do nothing.” The idea behind this is, if you keep on with
the same course of action, eventually you will have enough of it, and become
motivated to change it.
What does it take for you to change? What motivates you to
take a new course of action? Each one of us is different and we each have our
particular path of life. The one thing we all have in common is our ability of
perceiving reality. That perception comes to us as a feeling. How we feel
about life affects us more powerfully than how we think about life. The
difference is in how we take action. Doing what you “feel” to be true is
healthier than doing what you “think” is true.
When it comes to gaming, play with more feeling and less
thinking. Play in flow and in alignment with your feelings. Play with an open
sense of what is really going on. Have a willingness to change directions if
things are not going the way that you would like them to go. You do not have to
pay for every lesson by riding out a cold streak and kidding yourself that the
dice and cards might eventually improve. You reduce your losses by keeping
yourself out of the loosing situations. Keeping yourself out of the loosing
situations could mean that you may have to change the way you play the game.
Like Soft Touch says, “If you don’t like the direction that you are going in,
change it.”